Matrix/State: pride
Universal state reference

pride

Pride: core shape

Pride is not only inflation. It is often defended elevation, counterfeit self-esteem, identity attached to opinions, possessions, affiliations, image, or status, and resistance to help, correction, revision, or not-knowing.

Across all nine types

How each type holds pride

Each swatch shows the handling family (suppress / express / escape), how central the state is to the type (bars), any secondary handling (dot) and passion (star). Click a row to read the full type-specific material.

More on pride

theory

Pride implies doubt

Pride implies doubt; what is truly secure does not need defense. Defensiveness invites attack.

theory

Pride blocks help

Pride can isolate by making it difficult to admit need, limitation, uncertainty, dependence, or error. This blocks receiving help.

theory

Pride turns opinions into identity

Pride turns views into identity and makes revision painful. Humility and openness keep revision possible. Pride substitutes defended opinion for reality and often wants others to see through that same lens.

recognition tell

Making reality about me

I'm not letting this be real; I'm making it mean something about me.

comparison

Love vs pride

Love / appreciation
A person can enjoy, love, value, or prefer something without making it a superiority claim.
Pride
Pride defends the object, identifies with it, and uses it for elevation.

Love appreciates; pride defends.

opposite positive

Opposite positive for pride

  • Humility
  • Inner security
  • Self-respect
  • Openness
  • Revisability
  • Beginner's mind
  • Willingness to receive help

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